Love...

Saturday, July 30, 2011

My husband was once my brother-in-law. My husband's older sister's husband. Sounds shameless, I know, but it isn't. I remember the first time he came to see me...the first time after many phone calls. Neither one of us were sure of this decision to start seeing each other. It was strange, to say the least. I had recently separated from my husband. I had moved back into my parent's home. This man, whom I had gone on family vacations, whom I've always had a tremendous crush , whom I've never thought particularly liked me or knew I "existed", whom I would try to make laugh because he was always so solemn...was coming to see me. Me! He had been a groomsmen at my first wedding. He had been in the periphery of my family's existence. He was married (now separated) to my sister-in-law...who had always disliked me. How was I going to let my parent's know that this new man in my life was actually an "old" man...not in years, but in my past. Someone they knew in a totally different tableau. I finally worked up the courage to tell my Dad. He said...after not nearly as much drama as I was expecting...NO drama, to be honest...

"You can't choose who you love. It just happens. And when it's right...it takes your breath away".

Yes, it just happens.


There was a certain amount of courage involved in our new relationship. We had a lot of opinionated friends and family to overcome...or just ignore. I was reading People magazine. They have an article about gay marriage in NYC...I thought about my Dad and his words. We are going to NYC in November. I can't wait.

14 comments:

LPC said...

Aw. Clearly you two have chemistry. I wish you a wonderful trip to New York, one of the best places to be human on this planet.

designing wally said...

Me either, Darling,
November is lovely in New York...

My dry friend Andre says:
"love is like death. It happens."

ayeM8y said...

Well, Shame on you!

You two obviously are in love and what other man is going to let you dress him so elegantly?

He's in love with you.

As he should be.

It was YOU all along that he was interested in, he just was constrained by the social conditions at the the time to say so.

All's well that ends well.

jason said...

oooh..have fun up there. How could you not?
But seriously, this should be the plot of a romantic comedy!
Not sure if anyone would believe it, but it should :)

Pet said...

What a beautiful love story! And it's brave from you to tell here.
As for NY, I've got some Post on NY that might inspire you.
NY, like Paris, is a city of love.
http://pencilandbox.blogspot.com/search/label/NY

The Townhouselady said...

You can't control how or when you meet your true love but you can control what you do about it.

Yours is a true love story indeed.

WendyB said...

An amazing story! So happy for you two.

judy ALDRIDGE said...

Two bad marriages = one good marriage. Not such a bad deal.

Jill said...

Geez...how sappy was I?!

Susan said...

Love is what you want..

Karena said...

Jill this is a beautiful love story!!I love it and am excited for it to happen in my life once again!

xoxo
Karena

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LaDivaCucina said...

I remember you telling me this before. My sister is having a hard time with an old friend who is going out with his ex-sister in law. She says it's weird. I say, it's none of her business and if he's happy, what does she care? You can't live life worrying about what other people think, if you do, you are lost. So GLAD YOU TWO are not lost, my divine fabulous friend. Love conquers all. xo

drollgirl said...

it is so good that you two made it work! when it comes to love, sometimes outsider concernss and extenuating circumstances seem insurmountable. i wrestle with this a lot and want everything to line up easily when it comes to romance. IT RARELY DOES!

leticia@galsintheknow.blogspot.com/ said...

Jilly girl! Love this post!!
Remind me to give you a few recommendations while in nyc, must do's!!